The Five Steps to Changing Your Life

You probably already know step one and two…

Everyone has limiting beliefs. These erroneous ideas about yourself, your relationships, the world, or life itself create your thought patterns, direct your choices and actions, and shape your life.

I’m guessing this isn’t news to you.

You probably already know that the painful repeating patterns you see in your life — knee-jerk reactions to certain people, working too hard, eating too much, feeling guilty over setting boundaries or ignoring them, never finding the money to do that thing you keep saying you’re going to do, etc. — stem from faulty belief systems. We pick these faulty beliefs up unconsciously from the time we’re young. Sometimes our parents teach them explicitly. Sometimes we gather them from society or our education or our own 5-year-old interpretations of our life experiences.

I vividly recall a family drive when a belief of mine was jostled out of place. I was about four. My dad, while driving, stretched both his arms up over his head. My jaw hit the floor. I yelled, “How is the car still moving!?” My parents were surprised and confused, so I yelled again, “How is the car moving if Daddy’s hands aren’t on the wheel?”

Every time the car had ever moved, my dad had at least one hand on the wheel. In my 4-year-old brain, I…