What messages are you sending?

You communicate all the time whether you know it or not.

A client came for coaching because she had an upcoming presentation. Every time she stated her main point, she scrunched up her nose. The first few times, I ignored it. Maybe her nose was itchy?

But when I saw the consistent pattern, I mentioned it. “What’s going on?” I asked. “Every time you state your main point, you scrunch your nose. What’s going on in your head?” I didn’t tell her that a wrinkled nose is a sign of contempt. I wanted to see what she came up with.

After a few moments of careful thought, she said, “I believe in my idea, but it’s very simple. I’m afraid people will think it’s stupid.” Her fear showed up on her face.

Often, the way we think about ourselves and our ideas appears in little gestures and facial expressions. Take a look at your nonverbal “tics” and you may reveal thought patterns you weren’t even aware of. Changing your communication can change the way you think and feel and how you see yourself.

You communicate who you are. But who you are can change.

Change your communication, change your life.

I’m Rachel Beohm, a writer, speaker, and coach. Through nonverbal communication, I empower clients to show up as their biggest, boldest selves.

If you’d like tips on how to do that yourself, sign up here for “21 Days to Build a Better Life.” It’s a FREE 3-week email coaching program that I wrote to help you change your communication and your life.